Be Your Own Soulmate

As I've grown (physically and mentally), I have come to the realization that self-love is the best kind of love. In fact, I believe that you are your own soulmate! Lizzo got it right when she said, "'Cause I'm my own soulmate (Yeah, yeah). I know how to love me (Love me). I know that I'm always gonna hold me down." It sounds corny, but you must love yourself and the person you are before you fully give yourself to another. However, at the end of the day, you are and should be your biggest ally. Being your own soulmate is such a beautiful and powerful thing to do.

Self Care is Key

Let's get one thing straight (something I never really do), self-care and self-love is not an act of selfishness. You must take care of yourself first! I use the example of airplane masks. You have to put the mask over your face first before you can help anyone else. (Legit did a whole episode on this). Taking time for yourself is so important. You know you the best, so water yourself and you will bloom.

Relationships are still Vital

You should not be afraid that just because you are your own soulmate, means that your relationship(s) are doomed. You can (and should) love your partner as much as you love yourself. And if you are lucky enough to find a mate that also loves themselves so much, then there will be so much love and light in your relationship. Just keep in mind, you must nurture your relationship as much as you do yourself. Be sure to stay fair and level-headed.

Being Your Own Soulmate Takes Work

Yes, self-love takes work. You will have to invest so much into yourself every single day. It will be such a struggle at times. Even I am guilty of having self-doubt and putting myself down. "Steven, your last blog post sucks. Only 10 people liked it. You should just give up on this whole writing thing." I could take that to heart and really let it get me down OR I could turn it around and give it a positive spin. "Wow Steven! 10 people like your blog post so far. You are growing and reaching more people. Keep it up!" It will always benefit you to stay positive. Again, even that takes work. It is much easier to give up and throw a pity party. So I suggest taking a step back from the situation and looking at it with a positive twist. It will not be as easy as you want it to be at times, but push through it! You got this!

Lift Others Up

Another suggestion is for you to lift others up. When a person is so positive about themselves, others might want to tear them down. This is due to them working through their own personal issues. If someone is a "Negative Nancy" they will do their best to ensure any positive force (or person) they come in contact with will leave them with a sour experience. Stay clear of these types of people, they are toxic. It is 2021 and we do not have time for that! On the other hand, be sure to lift others up who are showing themselves some love. This is only adding to the love and overall positive experience. Plus, you never know when you might need to be lifted up. One day you might praise your friend for their self-love and the next day they will do the same for you. Now imagine if that next day, you were struggling a bit with your self-care/love? Strong people support strong people.

Find What Works for You

Music, movies, journaling, exercising, resting, bubble baths, etc... All of these things could bring joy and more self-care into your routine. For me, I love listening to uplifting and inspiring songs. They put me in a great mindset and therefore I am ready to tackle my self-doubts. Again, you know you the best, so find the things that bring you happiness. If you need a little guidance, be sure to check out my ebook!

Never Give Up!

You can do anything you put your mind to and that includes being your own soulmate. The goal is to keep yourself motivated and inspired. You have that power! Again, not an easy task, but you have to keep at it. Know your limits and find a solid support group/system.

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